Continuous Emotional Violence And Muerte.repitiendo Relation of Your Parents

"Sitting on my bed (which was actually the sofa in the dining department) ran the hours of another night, the day was getting up to go to school, had 16 years. The darkness lived in me, did not need to be evening, I accompanied a continuous gloom everywhere during the day too. Sumida in hell of violence between my parents, with images that were turning in my head very small, with sounds and mental movies my mind wandered a few years ago, with the sadness of a home environment inconclusive, in hate, in ruins ... I was there like every night, writing or thinking before bed ... and die that night .. I thought what it would begin to die. ., and for a moment (which seemed to last forever) with my eyes open I saw darkness and a prayer went through my mind: I will die in 40 years ... I live a few years ... I was shocked, I saw around me scared and confused ... while begging to know happiness and achieve a united family, with whom she lived differently before I die. "

The violent events experienced since childhood, in the position of spectator, and even more if you have been abused, they record the imprint of psychological, emotional, verbal or physical in your mind and your personality is formed and grow in these ways live and become almost natural, so if this trauma is not treated early, as early childhood or puberty, is likely to repeat the pattern of violent relationships in the grew up.

So you already falling in dating abuse, and it seems that you do not realize it most certainly take it as natural. If the relationship progresses and begins living the last little apparent calm and happiness, because any moment appear the first signs or signs of emotional or psychological violence. Later, if you continue in this circle, the abuse will grow into physical violence. And if you get out, you replace a bit and come back soon to look for another relationship (because you can not live alone, tormenting you be without a man) and, unfortunately, fall back into the trap of another violent relationship.

It is very important to recognize the violence since the beginning, from the first signs of mistreatment or abuse, aggressive behavior since the early part of the other. You must "open their eyes," stop the violence, setting limits, try to reach a workable agreement which maintain respect as a first step. If this fails and returns the violence, then is an indicator to end the relationship. So out of emotional violence from the start is essential.

The intimate partner violence, especially towards women which is the most common, is an expression of a sociocultural system based primarily on patterns of domination that justify violence and domination of the powerful over the weak.

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This type of violence finds its legitimacy through social myths that tend to excuse the perpetrator (offender) and to investigate and blame the victim (the woman) to justify what happened, myths represented by such popular phrases as follows: " There are loves that kill "," men are aggressive by nature, "" about anything will, "" outsiders are wooden, "" are beating men, "etc.. The worst thing is that the battered woman believes in these myths and blames herself through them not being able to see as a victim.

When we know or we refer to women beaten by their husbands raises a number of myths or beliefs to address the issues that only partially, because they can not see the real situation but rather the mask, for example:

- "Women are looking for violent men ': many women have been educated on beliefs that are affirmed on the grounds that women should be next to the man" in good times and bad "even though they violate their dignity, others sometimes do not see clearly because the violence has been the common ingredient in their lives.

- "If you're so bad, why is" stays out of fear, ignorance of their rights, lack of financial resources, job skills, because you have small children, by their religion.

- "Why endured so long and now just complains" this statement implies that there must be hidden reasons, so be suspicious of this woman who just may find the "permission" interior to recognize their right to say "enough"

- "Violence is a problem of the lower classes": brutality exercised in all walks of life, only in the upper classes has more resources to cover the problem and avoid embarrassment.

- "I agree it is masochistic. She likes to suffer" from this myth sadistic wishes are expressed to continue maintaining useful male domination. Actually she submits to prevent violence, careful not to rebel or do anything that might trigger it again.

One way in which relationships are impaired in human beings is through emotionally destructive relationships. There are several models or ways of emotionally destructive relationships, but let me mention just five to identify and know the deal.

5 ways of relating emotionally destructive

1. when there is some kind of abuse whether physical, sexual, verbal or emotional. Some people seem to enjoy that kind of abuse they impose on their partners.

2. when a person in that relationship is over protective or abusive despot but not in the ways mentioned above.

3. when there is cheating, lying, hiding information, or intended to be displayed to others as it really is not, in other words using masks.

4. when the woman becomes dependent on the emotional, social, relational, spiritual, economic or other, to the point of falling into extreme anxiety or concern.

5. when there is a pattern of indifference or neglect of thoughts, feelings or welfare of women.

So what to do?, Follow these tips:

1. Regain your dignity is a gift and you need to begin to see that you are a person of worth and love. You need to start seeing the value in you, even if others do not want to see and begin to handle situations that are occurring in the relationship, learn to handle criticism or indifference or abuse of another without allowing the other manipulate you.

2. Do not hide your feelings. What store turns into resentment. Learn to speak. Do not keep silent but will not enfrasques a meaningless discussion. Express your feelings with firmness and respect, even if the other person does not.

3. Stand firm and learns to say with authority. "If you do not respect me if I want to respect myself?". Standing firm means choosing the way of righteousness, truth, true peace. Besides that we are by standing firm against abuse, lies, manipulation and abuse of power and privilege.

4. After this, if your abuser does not change then the last step is to make a side and not prolong the agony. I know this sounds harsh especially in a culture or society where we are taught to be silent, suffer in silence and accept that we are victims.

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